What Not to Say to Someone Who Is Grieving or Terminally Ill

When someone is grieving or facing a terminal illness, words can either comfort or unintentionally hurt. Here are common phrases to avoid, sometimes the act of sitting alongside someone can carry more meaning than trying to fill the silence with words.

Avoid Saying to Someone Who Is Grieving:

• "They're in a better place." – May feel dismissive.

• "At least they lived a long life." – Grief is real at any age.

• "Everything happens for a reason." – Can sound insensitive.

• "I know how you feel." – Grief is personal.

• "Time heals all wounds." – Often feels invalidating.

• "Be strong." – Implies hiding emotions

Avoid Saying to Someone Who Is Terminally Ill:

• "Don’t talk like that—you’ll be fine." – Shuts down their reality.

• "Stay positive!" – Can feel dismissive of valid emotions.

• "Let me know if you need anything." – Too vague; offer specific help.

• "It could be worse." – Minimizes their experience.

• "At least you’re not in pain." – May overlook emotional suffering.

🧡 Final Thought

The best support comes from empathy, not perfect words. Be present, be patient, and always lead with love.